Sometimes I can’t even...

It’s 2015 and women are still fighting for autonomy over their own bodies…. Black men and women are still being brutally killed by the very people who are supposed to protect and serve. It’s seriously unbelievable. Oh, and Donald Trump is actually a viable presidential candidate. WHERE AM I?! WHAT’S HAPPENING? EVERYTHING IS CRAZY.

Stop Shooting My Little Brother

This country has gone through a lot in regards to race relations in the past oh fifty years. It’s always jarring realizing the Civil Rights Movement was not that long ago and that progress albeit progress has not been anywhere near what MLK envisioned. Sure, little black boys can hold hands with little white girls, if the black boy is seemingly nonthreatening and wearing a suit.

All of our notions about race are just so systematically ingrained in legislation, in media, in bigoted ideas passed down from ignorant generation to the next it’s hard to see a future where none of that exists. 

The mistreatment of people of color is forever torched into American history with a flame that has extinguished hope, burned an unrelenting inferiority complex into millions and laid waste to humanity in a way that is almost irreparable. 

American Slavery is a big deal. It was more than humans being stripped of basic rights, it was more than families living in constant fear of being ripped apart, it was more than slaves being whipped and beaten by slave masters on a whim, it was more than the human spirit being tortured to the point of suicide, it was more than every violent action done to a person you can think of, it was more than dismantling the laws of human nature. Slavery ruined- no, poisoned the hearts and minds of this county and its ramifications continued to haunt our present in ways nobody wants to admit.

During the Civil Rights movement there seemed to be a special place of hatred and violence singularly preserved for black men. They were the main enemy in the minds of millions of Americans because of the mere color of their skin.Their presence was a threat and their lives an afterthought. 

Skin color was (in some minds still is whether it’s admitted or not) equated to intellect, reasoning, responsibility, the capacity for love and understanding. In slavery black people were not allowed to be perceived as human, holding all of these qualities, along with an astounding magnitude of hope, because then the reality that humans were being treated as cattle would settle in and demolish the whole notion of free, renewable resources (HUMANS). 

Again, I talk about slavery because for me that, later to be repackaged as institutional racism, can be the only source of all the unapologetic violence constantly berating the black community for so many years. We have come from an incomprehensible amount of pain and broken spirits to get to where we are today. I am apart of a community that is bigger than me, that holds a diverse array of minds. I am apart of a community that has been and continues to be subjected to atrocious mistreatment and injustice over and over again.

It scares me that black boys are continuously getting shot or beaten with no hope for justice. It scares me that the system that is suppose to protect the lives of all Americans has been so lax with defending the rights of some. It’s even more frustrating that the justice system ignores the harrowing implications of these injustices.

More importantly, it scares me that I have a little brother in Florida who just wants to hang out and be a teenager, but can’t be because being a black teenage boy in Florida can get you killed.

My little brother is tall for his age. He’s lanky and goofy and is one of the funniest people I know. I love talking to him because he has this airy demeanor of wisdom sometimes or this refreshing, wide-eyed infectious curiosity. He asks me questions about life and listens to my clumsy answers with a furrowed brow and at those moments I feel humbled that he actually sits there and listens. We talk about his dreams of becoming the next Dwayne Wade, but I always tell him he could be the next Neil Degrasse Tyson. I love my little brother. I love him so much it makes me want to cry when I hear about these shootings. And I do. I have. I’m crying as I write this. I honestly don’t know what I would do or how I would react if anything happened to him. It makes me crazy even thinking about it.

It makes me physically ill knowing families have lost pieces of themselves because of unfathomable hatred. It makes me angry that there is nothing I can do to quell the rage or sadness the families must feel.

This has got to stop.

Plain and simple.

There is no excuse for this blatant disregard for human life. I don’t feel safe in this country knowing guns are in the hands of maniacs and guilty people get away with murder. 

This is definitely a gun issue, but even more seriously it’s a human rights issue.

It’s time to start protesting. It’s time to start taking action. We cannot keep living like this.

Marriage Equality And Guidelines

I just read this article on Thought Catalog posted to Facebook that basically stated how straight people, who among advocating for marriage equality, stick their own sexuality into their supportive statements, like “Straight, but not narrow,” or “I’m a straight person who just supports love,” ultimately “hurting the LGBTQ cause.” The article, I gather, was prompted due to the influx of people who changed their profile pictures on Facebook over the past few days to equal signs in a red box to support marriage equality. I can understand how interjecting your personal (hetero) identification can make it seem like you’re scared of being identified as queer, but sexuality is still a touchy subject even for people who support human rights. Going to the hippy-dippy liberal arts school I did, being exposed to a plethora of sexual orientations and lifestyles, it has taken me some time to realize I am NOT “the norm.”

Here’s an interesting few lines from the article:

“Allying with the queer community means embracing the endless combinations and permutations of sexuality, orientation, and gender expression human beings experience. Being comfortable with this idea means being comfortable with the reality that some people – gasp — might think you’re gay.”

Or not. In this country of millions of people who have, plainly, not been exposed to nearly the same experiences that have molded my view of the world. It’s easier to immediately jump to blanket statements or assume the worst of people, instead of accepting the reality that not every straight person is irrationally terrified of being called gay. I’m hoping America is moving in the direction of blurring lines and accepting people as people, but we’re not there yet… and won’t get their for a while if these are the strict guidelines every ally has to fit in order to be a suitable advocate. I would like to rush this entire process as well and if it were up to me there would be a major overhaul of American culture in general, but I have come to terms that it’s going to take some time to break these ridiculous barriers keeping us from seeing each other as the beautiful individuals we are and not labels. This is merely a baby step. The amount of people who changed their profile pictures and proudly remarked that marriage in fact does equal love means something. Some straight people who were discerning about their sexuality may have done it in order to show other straight people they need to support this cause because it’s a problem we should all be facing together as a unifying whole, not just the queer community.

Personally, I could care less what any of my friends on Facebook or otherwise think my sexual orientation is because they absolutely should not be my friend if that’s even a blip on their friendship radar. This article has a lot of really valid points in it, and I think it is such an important sentiment to be published for everyone to read. More people should be talking about gender and sexuality and the hardships that going along with identifying as LGBTQ, because regardless of all of these new sources of information and even the media attention, we are still a long, loooooong ways away from equality and in some situations mere understanding. Throwing up an equal sign in your profile does not automatically make you an aficionado on the subject, but it does mean moving towards a positive goal. I hope in the coming months there will be more platforms where these discussions can be had, and I hope EVERYONE joins the conversation.

Let’s all follow the day and reach for the sun: